six ways to dismantle a fitspo mindset

One of the hardest things to dismantle when it comes to anything like physical exercise is a fitspo mindset.
 
That includes a sort of defensiveness and self-consciousness about one’s abilities (or lack thereof).
 
We have been indoctrinated to feel bad about ourselves.
 
Like if we eat two slices of cake (or three, or four, or the whole cake) we’re a bad person. If we sit and watch ours of mindless telly instead of doing the dishes or going for a wlak, we’re lazy. If we’re not as disciplined or as put-together as someone else (seems to be), then they’re a better person than us.
 
This all leads us to feel rather sorry for ourselves and, sadly, SHRINK into ourselves a bit more. 
 
Well I can’t fix ANY of this for you but I can tell you I’ve fixed – or improved – a lot of this within myself.
 
It took years.
 
In my case, I had to learn, deep-down learn that I was going to love and treasure myself, NO MATTER WHAT.
 
This is such hard work and also so much PATIENT and persistent work, I certainly don’t have time to write it all out now!
 
Here are six practices that might help you dismantle these kinds of fitspo attitudes.

1. Recognize fitspo is real.

It’s going to be a lot easier to change how we feel if we recognize how much we’re up against. Our entire culture and most of our familial culture values thinness, weight loss, youth, whiteness, those kinds of things. It’s huge, it’s massive, it’s everywhere. If we acknowledge this presence and power we may appreciate our successes – however small they may seem – all the more.

2. Ask yourself if you truly want to change.

When we actively reject fitspo, we actively reject the fantasies that come with it. We also dismantle the fitspo privileges we have – if we are thin, able-bodied, white, young, cisgender. We still BENEFIT from those privileges, but we actively work to dismantle them. This is a lot of work. So ask yourself if you’re ready!
 

3. Soften – and widen – your gaze.

Fitspo encourages us to make it all about US. We are jealous, defensive, we start this strange self-absorbed cycle where we ruminate on all the wrongs and unfairnesses against us, and we stop SEEING the beauty and hard work that other people show up with. Fitspo wants us in this place – it doesn’t want us to really LISTEN to and value others.
 

4. Mind your business!

So speaking specifically about yoga. I had a teacher that used to say, “Mind your mat!” In other words, pay attention to YOUR mat and your body. Don’t try to “copy” the instructor or other students, don’t strain, don’t compare.
 
I love looking at the other practitioners who can do amazing things. Some of the things they can do… well maybe one day I can do them too! But sometimes it’s pretty obvious I’ll never do what they can do! (For reference: check out my friend thetysonedwards on Instagram!)
 
I should not diminish other practitioners’ beauty, joy and practice by relentlessly comparing it to my own!
 

5. Commit to loving yourself – even if you’re faking it!

I had to act AS IF I loved myself, for a long time before I felt it.
 
And some days it’s a struggle!
 
But I’m so committed to myself and my love of feeling better, stronger, and feeling happier –
That I won’t give away my own joy by comparing, or (the twin cousin): getting defensive, making excuses, lapsing into self-pity.
 
It took me years to get to a better place. And I re-commit regularly.
 

6. Give yourself props!

Please remember fitspo is just another entrenchment of white supremacist capitalism. Fitspo actually isn’t personal, rather a system that wants you to feel despondent, disempowered – and wants you to SPEND MONEY out of your rut. Resist! In fact your very resistance is a loving commitment, and it is very brave work!
 
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